Real Euphoria

Recently I had coffee with a friend who is in that awkward stage of working out whether a guy is interested. It made me think about whether men are complex (because it can appear that way) or are they just generally very simple creatures. I think they are generally simple.

I think that they often come across as complex because men are generally not good communicators. They complain that woman expect them to read minds but quite often it’s the other way around. Men like to think that unless they say something everything is fine. This is a load of crap. Men just don’t like to actually talk about their problems or situations. They also don’t like to admit they have any depth so when they come across someone who likes to discuss things they don’t like it.

It reminds me of the fact that many men will never ask for directions. They would rather roam for hours than to admit they are lost. I wonder if it’s the same in life. Rather than admit there is problem and work it out they would rather roam around in their own heads either in denial or trying to sort it out for themselves, which is likely to lead to more confusion.

We understand there are fundamental differences between male and female like personalities and it probably wouldn’t be so difficult if when you ask a man a question he answered it. In that situation you could probably at least get to the bottom of it. Unfortunately though men are more likely to give the simplest and quickest answer which will usually be that everything is fine, instead of just saying what the problem is.

If it wasn’t so frustrating it would probably be hilarious lol.

Someone recently made me think of this song. This version is nice.

I’ve found it fascinating as I have got into social sites like myspace, livejournal and facebook. Strangely I like myspace and live journal because they cross post from my blog. I’ve just started working with myspace but I find it quite good. Facebook on the other hand I use at the moment, because it has helped me connect with people from my past, however I don’t think I will keep it forever. Facebook is extremely overwhelming, probably because of all the crap that gets thrown at you.

That is why in the left hand sidebar where there are links to my social networking sites, they will work with the exception of Facebook because I couldn’t take too much invasion lol. However by all means if you are on livejournal or myspace feel free to add me as a friend.

I am yet undecided whether social networking sites are good or not. I believe they can be ok as long as you keep close control and don’t let them get out of hand. However I can understand how these types of sites can so easy cause stress if you don’t manage them well. It’s also understandable how young people mess their heads up with this stuff considering when they have hundreds and hundreds of “friends” on these sites. You do lose a piece of yourself or at the very least a little bit of your privacy. Not so much in a physical sense but an emotional. I can’t explain it well, but it’s easy to see how the new age of communication causes serious psych problems. I will see. I have my emotional panic button ready to go if I need to.

I had one of these shots and recently came across the second so I thought I’d show both.

Ok, well you all know I like to try new plugins so I’m added the Friendsroll plugin under my links in the right sidebar. I’m not sure to what degree I will use it, but for now it’s a good way for readers who have there own sites to link themselves. This way if you would like to share your blog with my readers than go down to Friendsroll and select ‘Want to be my friend?’. The rest is up to you.

If you are on already on my blogroll then don’t worry unless you would like to be in both lol. I can’t manually add anyone to my Friendsroll so you’ll have to submit your details.

Thanks to urbanboys for posting this clip. It just made me smile so much. You have to watch it.

One of the most crippling if not THE most emotion in our lives is fear. I have spent a lot of time thinking about this very subject which is why when I woke up this morning and went to catch up on some feed reading, I was pleased to find a post written by Geoff at foucaultonacid that was talking about this very topic. Take the opportunity to read the post and the link in the post because I have found it extremely valuable.

There’s a book I was given many many years ago called “Love is Letting Go of Fear” by Gerald Jamposky. This book is probably one of the best sources I have found on this topic because of it’s simplicity.

It is true that as humans most of our behaviours are based on fears. It is so true that we have to work from a place of love. If we base our decisions on love rather than the fears we will be much happier. Personally the area I struggle with is realising that sometimes working from a place of love means making tough decisions. Even when you work from love you have to realise there will still be hurt and pain, it’s just that I believe as Geoff does that you will feel better about the decisions that you make long term. I do struggle with the balance of where you are working from love but still need to decide the tough things but that is an area I am working on. The key for me when I analyse those thought processes is I think to ensure those decisions are not based on fear.

Anyway, read the post that Geoff made because I think it is a must read.

Today I received an email from a past love interest. Someone I would consider a friend. Maybe one day we can rebuild the friendship. I think there is still a level of emotion and awkwardness that keeps us at a certain level of distance.

It made me realise how much I value each of the people I have had in my life. This guy, lets call him Luke is probably one of the most similar people to me personality wise but at the same time is completely different. Even though we would have made a great couple, unfortunately the timing of our meeting  didn’t really work. But one of the things I am reminded as I am an avid reader of his blog is that we both are in great relationships but both have similar issues. No it’s not what you think.

The issues are that we both like to look for answers in our relationships in a similar way to how our personalities operate in our professional lives. Now we are both analytical and very black and white and unfortunately you things in your personal life are never quite that cut and dried. That’s what is most frustrating for our personalities.

I just find it fascinating that we as humans always want things to be simple. Unfortunately as much as I can make most things simple, there are some things in life that just don’t work that way. One of the things I have found in life is sometimes you just never know.

One of the things that was mentioned is how you will always have incompatibilities in a relationship. The question is where the incompatibilities are concerned where is the breaking point or deal breaker? I find that question fascinating so although I won’t talk about that now, I might write about that question in a post soon. I’d like to delve into that a little further.

Anyway, it was great to hear from Luke because I still have a special place in my heart for him.