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Archive for January, 2008
Jan
31
Surprise from the Past
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I guess it was only a couple of days ago that I mentioned Social Networking and that I only use one site. Well that site turned up a long lost brother. Well I think of him as a brother. Ben’s mother hooked up with my father after I was out of home and my parents had been divorced for a while. So when Ben’s mum and my dad broke up after a considerable number of years, Ben had already left home. So I do call Ben a brother even if the last time I saw him was when he was around 10 or 11. Oh, he’s 25 now.
Anyway, I had tried to find Ben a number of times over the past 10 years and for the first time came across him on Facebook. So anyway, we spoke on the phone last night and it was so good. I can’t explain it, but I feel a connection to Ben as he is also gay and his teenage years were spent with my father.
I can’t explain it but I was so happy to finally connect that I could barely speak straight (lol). Ben is doing well and is a long way away from me but from our conversation I gathered he was happy. I would actually like to talk more often because I feel that he is family. So I will keep you informed.
Again, I was just so excited to finally track him down.
Jan
28
Values / Beliefs
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I’ve been thinking a little about values of late. Interestingly when I tried to define values or personal values it was very difficult. In fact ‘values’ is quite an ambiguous term so I have decided to list some of my values and beliefs. To make it clear I will start each one with the term ‘I believe’. However this list is really just the way I lead my life. I believe that there are a lot of area’s you can attribute values to. I do strongly believe that it’s important in life to share your values from time to time because it allows others to gain an insight into you. I do believe strongly that you need to share the same values as your partner in life. Here goes:
- I believe that family comes first
- I believe my boif is my number one priority
- I believe that honesty is essential
- I believe in Karma
- I believe in loyalty
- I believe monogamy is essential
- I believe it’s easy to say something nice but you have to put it into actions for it to be truly believed.
- I believe I am here to love
- I believe I never take anything for granted
- I believe common courtesy is a must
- I believe everyone needs to form their own religious or spiritual beliefs.
- I believe that my ramblings on this blog will help someone
- I believe I am a good person
- I believe in doing whatever I can not to hurt people
- I believe technology has surpassed humanity
- I believe it is easy to lose sight of what’s important
- I believe there are people who love me and I don’t even know it
- I believe I have common sense
- I believe we are all connected
- I believe life is beautiful
Jan
27
Protected: Relationship Autopsy
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27
Social Networking Sites
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Social Networking sites are everywhere from sites like Myspace to Facebook and Twitter. Now I’m not a huge fan of social networking sites and certainly understand the privacy implications of them, however it’s not all bad. I decided to give one of these sites a try some time ago. Interestingly, there is a lot of crap that comes along with them but it has also helped connect or reconnect me with people I have wanted to find for years. In fact it is a good way to track people down.
Now to be honest I’m not sure whether these sites are good or bad. In fact I can’t work out if one or all of them are better than others. I hear Lot’s of good and bad reports on all of them. They are all different and I guess they all serve a purpose to someone. Twitter seems to get a lot of good reports and others get a lot of bad.
As much as I know they all serve a purpose to someone I’m glad at the moment I’ve limited myself to one because I can’t decipher between them all. I think this is something I’ll have to become better acquainted with in the future. For now it’s just nice to be connecting with people that have been difficult to track down in the past.
Jan
26
Natural Beauty – The Post
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Sometimes when I post something, I have no idea where the title comes from. This was the case when I posted the picture in the last post (or above). But after posting it as ‘Natural Beauty’ it reminded me of a post from December that I had titled “Learned Behaviour/ Low Self Esteem”. Anyway following from that I had a situation recently where a friend admitted to me that he couldn’t understand why I was his friend and cared so much about him. Although I know that in this case it was more to do with his low self worth I had to admit to him that I couldn’t understand why anyone wouldn’t feel the same as I do about him. I know self worth is not usually something that can easily be explained, but I found these thoughts interesting because I honestly couldn’t think of one reason why anyone wouldn’t like him and adore him as much as I do.
Now of course I know that I am being a little biased here. But in some ways I can understand his fears. I don’t think they are rational but in some ways I can understand them. I truly deeply care about him because I have got to know him. Like others I see the real him. However he has spent so long being a dual personality (one person in public and another in private), that to some degree I’m sure he’s thinking if he doesn’t keep up the public persona those friends will disappear. Now we know that this isn’t really a rational way of thinking for two reasons. One is that if those people saw more of the real person and disappeared than they weren’t real friends to begin with. Secondly, and probably more importantly, I know for a fact that 99% of those people wouldn’t disappear.
This friend when he lets his guard down is one of the most beautiful people I have ever met in my life and I truly hope that some day he realises how much natural and inner beauty he has.
