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Archive for February, 2008
Feb
29
Update+++
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It’s been a few days since my last post, probably because I’ve been all over the place. I spent two days at a workshop which was fantastic. Unfortunately I spent almost as much time driving as I did at the course. I thought Sydney traffic was bad but Brisbane is by far worse. Anyway, the workshop was great.
It was about EI (Emotional Intelligence). I ‘m sure I’ll discuss it further when I’m not so tired but for now I’ll leave it there.
On a side issue, I was in the mood to write last night but discovered my site was down. This doesn’t happen a lot and generally I’m very happy with my host but I have to say this was a bizarre series of events.
It started with me discovering the site was down. Eventually I worked out my sql databases had disappeared. A few emails back and forward and all the support dept could do is tell me to reload it from a backup. Now I didn’t have a backup (which I will now fix) but I left it for the night thinking I’ll worry about it tomorrow.
When I woke this morning it was all there. Now that concerns me on many levels. One that it disappeared to begin with, secondly that the support dept really didn’t help and thirdly that it reappeared. I’m guessing something went wrong at the host and fixed itself. However sabotage worries me a little. I have had no reason to think this but I will put some extra precautions in place and regularly back up from now on.
Anyway, for now I will say goodbye, but will be back soon with some intelligent conversation lol.
Feb
24
What is “a break”?
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Today I heard that friends of ours who are married are taking a break. Now I hope that all works out for them because they are both beautiful people but it did make me think about the question, could I do it?
For me, I’m not sure I could ever entertain the idea of a break because for me there are other avenues that should be exhausted in the process. In my mind “a break” means the relationship is over. However for me it would be essential to have discussed issues first, then if all else fails have therapy for the reason of an additional perspective and some ideas.
Now although I respect everyones personal choices in how to deal with issues in their relationships, for me a break is not one of them. If I am having issues I want to work them out. I will do everything possible to come to a resolution and compromise. I strongly believe both myself and my partner have a responsibility to equally compromise in order to build a relationship that is strong. I compromise a lot but for me I don’t view it as compromise often because with most things I don’t feel it’s compromise as much as a relationship of give and take. If I feel very strongly about something I will explain how I feel and we can come to a compromise that makes both of us happy.
After looking into this topic I realise there are a hundred different interpretations of what couples see a break as. No matter what happens in your relationships I do hope you can work them out. We all deserve happiness and although we go through difficult times, remember that you do love each other and let arguments disappear once they are over.
Feb
24
Excited to study
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This week I will be spending two days completing a training program. I am so used to being the trainer that it will be nice to be on the receiving end. Actually as sad as this may sound I don’t think I have ever been this excited about a workshop before. Why?
Well it’s simple. I have attended a lot of industry training and specific training in the past but very little broader stuff. This event is something that will not only increase my skills as a leader but will impact on me personally. The event is about Leading through Emotional Intelligence.
Many businesses I have dealt with in the past maintain that feelings and emotions have nothing to do with good business and results. I have always felt that emotions and feelings will undoubtedly effect a business and in a huge way.
Knowing and recognising my emotions and moods and using feelings to get more positive outcomes is just a small part of what this is about. Not only is this going to help me be a better leader but it will help me recognise those things in others.
I have searched and searched for something that made sense to me in relation to how to improve my management skills and this is the first time I have found something that makes sense. I work in a very emotional industry and although a large part of my role is managing staff performance it is still an emotive industry because it is people focused.
So anyway, I am looking forward to this and based on the pre-training material I am confident it is going to be a valuable event. Many of you have probably already come across or have a good understanding of EI (Emotional Intelligence), however for me it is a new concept and all I can say is I’ll keep you up to date.
Feb
24
Blogging Meme
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A new meme thanks to Yaniboy.
- Do you promote your blog?
Not really… I basically just let people stumble by and decided if they want to stay or not. - How often do you check hits?
About once a day. Sometimes more depending on what’s going on. - Do you stick to one topic?
Never. Although being that quite often I write about my life and observations, I guess there is some similarity. - Who knows that you have a blog?
I’m not sure, but don’t really care. - How many blogs do you read?
About 20 or 30 daily but also flick through about 200 which is how many I have in my feedreader. - Are you a fast reader?
I would have to say yes - Do you customise your blog or do anything technical?
Well, not really, but I do customise. - Do you blog anonymously?
Yeah… I guess if you mean that I don’t use my real name. - To what extent do you censor yourself?
Not a lot. Actually generally not at all. There are some things that I hesitate in writing about publicly but I don’t really censor. - The best thing about blogging?
The people I have met. I have gained a great group of regular readers who have become friends. This has to be the best part.
Feb
21
Judgements
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Recently my good friend Vanyel spoke about an experience in a coffee shop where two guys within hearing distance said some terrible things that were quite offensive about him. It made me think of how judgemental people can be.
I think we have all had experiences where we have been judged by people who think they know us. When I was thinking of the people that do this from my experience there are two kinds. One is people who are insecure about themselves and this is extremely if not scarily common within gay guys and the second group are people who are trying to deflect attention from themselves so they don’t have to examine their own lives. Again this is an insecurity issue.
What is unfortunate about these people is that they either hurt other people or really hurt other people. The ones who just make a nasty comment will hurt you, but eventually you will be able to move on. Then there are the ones who decide even though the don’t really know the truth about you that they are going to really stir up trouble. These are the ones that are really sad.
But the key and my advice to Vanyel and anyone this happens to is to always remember that they are very unhappy people and are really in need of your compassion. People who are truly happy don’t have a need to do this and are probably jealous that you appear to be happy. The greatest revenge is to be happy and show you have a life you love.
